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The Leadership Development Plan
Many people are born leaders, yet the ability to lead is actually an art and an amazing collection of skills, which can be learned and sharpened through a series of daily habits and activities. The following ten keys will provide the foundation...
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Happiness
Are you happy? This question is likely to bring either a defensive response like `Of course I am!’ or a bemused reply of , `No, should I be?’ Happiness is such a simple, natural concept and yet it seems so hard for the average person to...
Music: Our Connection to the Higher Conscious
Today, more and more seniors are watching their diet and
implementing exercise programs in an effort to remain more
healthful, manage stress, and participate in a lifestyle that is
rewarding and enjoyable. Many are aware of the benefits of...
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Wellness of the Mind
Our spiritual input is a determining factor when establishing
our wellness level. We all need the benefit of spiritual
reflection, as a way of cleansing ourselves of the toxins of our
daily life. Spirituality is a way of assuring ourselves of...
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Who is pushing your buttons?
How many times this week only, you had an encounter with someone
who either pushed your buttons or you simply didn't like,
meaning, the chemistry wasn't there?
It happens often. We hate the guts of this or that person, or we
think that there is something wrong with them. Somehow we become
absolutely critical and thus create an inaccurate and biased
image of someone and nothing that person does is quite all
right.
Of my many cases, there is one that I like to talk about. I was
taking a course and we met 3 times a year for 5 years. Now, that
is time enough to get know people. So, there was this woman, who
was pleasant enough and very friendly and smiley, but as soon as
she opened her mouth, I would roll my eyes and think: oh, boy,
here she comes. Can't she just shut up? For 4 years I did that,
until I realized something.
This thing is: "we cannot find in others what we ourselves do
not possess." In other words: everything that we claim to find
in people is something that we also have, or we wouldn't be able
to recognize it, be it positive or negative.
So, do you find a person friendly? So are you. Do you find a
person arrogant? So are you. Is this person competent? Funny?
Giving? So are you. Is this person authoritarian, stubborn,
prejudicial? So are you.
I know that you might be snapping at me at this point, but trust
me; this is absolutely true. What we don't
like in others in
usually a reflection of our own qualities. Based on this, it is
imperative that you take action when you meet someone who, one
way or another pushes your buttons. Then you ask yourself one or
more of the following questions:
1. What does this person have that I, too, have, but somehow I
am denying it in myself?
2. What does this person have that I never knew I had it as well
until now and I now that I know, I don't like it?
3. In what sense is this person just like me?
4. What characteristics do I have that I don't like and that I
see reflected in this person?
5. What am I reflecting or projecting?
Try to find what bothers you and seek in yourself where the same
quality is. It will help you tremendously. Coming back to my
story; that woman in my course was French-Canadian. She spoke
English with an accent, as she is foreigner. So do I. We then
became the best of friends.
About the author:
Dr. Maria Moratto holds 5 degrees and is a life coach/educator.
She promotes courses and seminars in attracting abundance and
loving relationships, goal setting, diversity, time and stress
management, career delineation, values clarification, leisure,
college life, self-improvement, communication and learning
styles, spirituality, health and lifestyle. Visit her website at
http://www.rx4bliss.com . Sign up for a free e-zine.
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